Yes, it is unfair. While I don't want look down on you in the old fashion 'oh look, another typical Westerner doesn't understand how Middle East actually works' but this is a gross oversimplification a best.
First and foremost, if there was an actual persistence coordinated effort to destroy Israel, the small country would have been much more trouble then it already is. The only country in the Middle East that has an
active state policy to destroy the Israeli as nation state is Iran. Arabs states doesn't have such
state goal. (Most people forget 1956 anf 1967 Arab-Israeli war was initiated by Israel attacks. and then 1973 was initiated by Egypt and Syria to take back the territories that Arab countries lost in Israeli invasion of 1967)
It is unwise to derive geopolitical Conclusion from how masses think and react in these oppressive Arab dictatorships.
They are not literate enough to understand how things actually works in the modern world. And everything they see, is through the lense of preconceived/indoctrinated (Mostly religious) point of view. But intellectuals and statemens are thankfully not like that.
Any rational Arab or Muslim mind today does not outright refuse the Israel's right to exist. Historically, it is already too late and any attempt fundementally change it, is not practical anymore.
Our porblem is
the way Israel is existing, by continously expanding and illegally annexing legitimate Palestinian territories. (And in the process killing Palestinians and demolishing their ancestral homes) In a nutshell, Israel's Apertheid policy toward Palestinians and complete unwillingness to go back to their internationally recognised border of 1967 is the root cause of all problem. Hamas is just a scapegoat here for Israel.
Bassem Yousu Summerized it very well in his recent interview. (There is no Hamas in West Bank)
Arabs genuinely did try to make peace with Israeli in accord with the International law and consensus, but Israel refused to go back to its 1967 territory.
Arab peace initiative was a golden Opportunity for Israel to normalize its relations not only with the Arab world but also with broader Muslim world. But they threw it away thinking they can just have it all for themselves.
en.m.wikipedia.org
This is the full text of an agreement reached at the Arab League summit in Beirut.
amp.theguardian.com
Israel deliberately made it an existential confrontation. And no amount of rationality and modernity is gonna make us give up on Alqsa and Jerusalem.